My Journey on Social Media: Friendship to Falsehood to True Freedom
Out of pain I sought the comfort of other voices in the darkness.
Now they’re biting back.
in an atmosphere more hostile,
slanderous and frightening
Can We Bring The JOY back?
by Libby Baker Sweiger 3/27/2015
In January of 2009, I went on Twitter for the first time to learn something new and challenging and to distract myself from the constant back pain I was suffering before I finally acquiesced to surgery. It was a great move. I learned a lot and met so many fun people. I still love Twitter!
Recently I closed a large account on Facebook in favor of my smaller one to simplify my life and also frankly to dodge a few “friends” dominating my experience on that venue. I am now experiencing so much backlash in the case of breaking some ties there, you wouldn’t believe it if I told you. So I won’t.
I have been forthcoming in my daily paper.li www.livingabovethemadness.org and my advocacy for #mentalhealth with complete disclosure of my one and only challenge in that arena: bipolar disorder. I feel that is enough for one person to tackle in a lifetime and thankfully God agrees! If there were more, in the interests of education and enlightenment, which I wholeheartedly believe in, I would disclose it. There is not. Anything you read to the contrary is a fabrication, in fact more plainly put: a lie. I thank God daily for the Grace to live successfully and without encumbering disability with this particular challenge. I am thankful for a great husband, daughter, health team and a sense of humor that have carried me through the hard times!
I do not need friends spreading lies on social media. So let me spread some truth. I am happy, healthy, feeling better after a rough time in mourning this fall and winter, burgeoning into a glorious spring, some hard work and permanent fixes to the psyche behind me.
I feel stronger and better than I have in many years. Stronger as a person. Closer to dear husband Mike, true friends and family. Free of the burden of trying to take care of people who need to take care of themselves. Independent and very blessed to have the life that I do have. Proud of my daughter, close to my dear sisters and brothers and joyful in work.
For all this wisdom, I thank my faith, husband, family, friends and one of my favorite quotes of recent times from Facebook and High School friend Debi Beall ~ “Not my Circus, not my monkeys!” If you don’t get the deep insight in that, let’s talk!
And one more: If you do have a friend or two really dragging you down and have had a problem setting boundaries like I have had, ask yourself this question: Is this person my problem? Perhaps not! Perhaps they are really somebody else’s problem! So hand them over. Get them out of your jurisdiction. 😉
Have a great day!
Spread some JOY!
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WOW! So sorry you have been going through all that BS. Wishing you well and hoping your journey continues with true, blue friends! You are one strong women and please believe true friends can know that. Being strong does not mean we don’t struggle and trip and fall at times, it means we get up and dust our selfs off and continue on our merry way. You see so much brightness in the world…………stay the postive, true to yourself loving person you are.
Thank you Marjorie Lee! I don’t know that any of the friends were false as much as my boundaries weren’t in place and I managed to wear myself out not saying no, as I reflect upon this all. I am learning. We need to be kind. We also need to save time and energy for ourselves to have a life. I’m learning. Aren’t we all a work in progress after all. Thanks for your support!